Friends.....hmm!

Walking to my estate gate on a Wednesday morning. It was going to rain and i didn't have my umbrella, thought of going back home but it was going to be a busy day. In my panicky state, a 2008 Honda civic parked in front of me. I was going to walk past it when the dude wound down and asked if i needed a ride...."hell yea" i said in my mind. I hopped in, said 'hello, thank you so much' and started looking out the window.

It was really quiet and i was deep in my thoughts when he decided to break the silence.My name is Seun he said, i work with MTN. You? I answered and we kicked off a converstaion. We talked, made some jokes, laughed....we connected. He dropped me off at work and yes we exchanged numbers.

He started calling me everyday from our first encounter, least time spent on the phone was 25mins....we talked for hours. Then we decided to see again. He came towards my house then we took a stroll around my estate just chatting on and on.

Oh! forgot to mention he's married and has a 5 year old son. Sucker made me like him first before letting out that detail about himself. Anyways, its not like i'm goona sleep with the dude, we can be friends and friends we were until that beautiful morning i got a call from some chick.....she didnt say her name but she stated loud and clear she was his wife. Hi Mrs. Idowu i said calmly, i didnt need to fret, i wasn't guilty of anything. "I have your shoes but i want to give it to you in person". WTF!!! I said ok and nothing further. Apparently, i had forgotten my shoes in his car the previous day.

I called him immediately with this development, i didn't want any wahala. He said authoritatively it couldnt be his wife....oh well! sort it out, i don't give a hoot if it's your maid.

She called back to apologize. She was going to give him my shoes for onward delivery to me. She saw the shoes and got jealous. She was his girlfriend. Shuuu, Panadol for another woman's headache, what would his wife have done then? Bathe me with hot oil?.......better i keep my distance, i smell serious trouble and i did. I don't want sand in my ijebu garri.

Seun and I are still cool but a word for the wise 'run while you still have your skin'. That i have done.

In different bodies

...Cute, handsome, tall, caramel skin, beautiful eyes, great dentition, bald head. A good listener, never mocks you when you  make a mistake but corrects you, generally fun to be with. Loves music and classic movies. An atheist, he snores and not so great in the sack (you know what mean).

....Fair skin, brown eyes, pink lips, very dark hair, nice British accent. Earns well, drives a porshe cayenne. Loves his watches, keeps a collection infact (very materialistic). Fun to hang out with, likes to party, not so into movies but enjoys sports (basketball and tennis). Self centred mama's boy and chooses his wine before of any other thing.

.....6 ft 3'' tall, body like Shemar Moore(hope he still looks hot), eyes like Chris Hemsworth, smile like Tom Welling (Kent of smallville), ass like Brat Pitt (hope you all saw it in Troy). Business mogul, likes his money but puts his woman first. His lady before the games, the boys, some meetings, even himself. A christian and he believes in love. He snores, unfortunately has mouth odour, and said one time he can't father a child!! (Jesux, for an African woman he would have been perfect!!!)

....Great body, loves music, movies, football, beer, his friends, his space. Church goer, self dependent, yaps when you make mistake, emotionally disconnected, selfless, very restless and impatient but kind and quite loving. Never jealous and expects  you to understand everything going on around (like some genius ehn). Quite comfortable, only gives when you ask.....blah blah blah.

......5"4, really cute baby face, keeps an afro(thinks it makes him look tall). Christian (choir), very funny dude. Boxing and tekwondo are his favorite sports. Talks too much, Chris Tucker is heaven beside him. Likes his women...women!!!

.....Son the the devil, playboy, smokes like a chinmey, likes rock music, very loud. Has the best cars, he never holds back on his spending. Comfort is very important.

Anyway, my point is we say to ourselves.....i have my spec, if he isn't tall, dark and handsome it's a no go! forgetting other attributes that make a true man. Then we get older and say to ourselves, "anyone God gives us jere!" That's a statement of a tired desperate woman sha! **my opinion**

What exactly do we want?

Girl next door

She's just a princess. Christina.............Princess Christina.

Beautiful in and out. You can share your life with her and be at ease because you know your secret is safe. Her word is her bond. Open minded, free spirit, loves the life and lives it to the fullest (when she can). Hate rub off's, snitches, cheapskates, opportunist. Greatest weakness is food. Favourite person in the world is her mum 'omo mummy'.

Absent minded sometimes but effective when needed. Easily bored, thank God for google, blogs and online shopping...

Not perfect but close to flawless, beautiful fair skin, dark short hair, brown eyes, cute nose, smile like heaven (no homo), on her way to having the perfect teeth, shape like an hour glass...well almost like an hour glass.

Loves yellow.

She's a worthy to be called a friend....Princess Christina.

Principal Cheryl.......another wonderful person. Speaks so fast, you'll thank God you listen to Chris Rock and Eddie Murphy! Has a huge heart. Listens when you hurt, always gives a soulder for you to cry on. Principled, strong willed, quite temperamental but  quick to forgive.

Loves purple.

She's in my life as a friend and a mother figure.

She's very dear to me.

Both sweet people...if you ever meet them, do not be afraid, they are specially made and will leave a print in your life.

Love you peaches.

A wish

We make different wishes everyday...mine has been the same everyday for the past ten years!


"Take me back to the 17th December, 1999"

All was well, families maintained the responsibility to take care of their own and show as much love as they could to extended family. We maintained a reasonable distance but accesible when needed, that distance was required. No one plans for bad things to happen but God has given us the strength to overcome when this challenges come up.

They all wanted what they assumed was there. Tension and panic arouse from every corner for no just cause. Hate was the order of the day. Prayers was all we had. Friends fled. Nothing seemed to work. A minute dragged like a year.

We pulled through. God used colleagues and kingsmen in our favor.

They tried, for years they tormented us. They pushed really hard to break us, the bond was as hard as rock, nothing was going to come in between. They became angry, started fighting and killing themselves. God was at work, they waged war against themselves. They broke their own homes. We were left alone.

Time passed. We built. God blessed us. The light at the end of the tunnel became brighter. We were ontop somehow. It was God., jusy God. We became a bright tower for others,

So called friends and family came back with tails in between their legs. It was never the same. We forgave, but have not forgotten. All is well.

A wish..... that he could watch from the other side and watch how we struggled and made it together. He will be proud.